As you may know by now, I have been reading books as part of an intensive discipleship program, including books like the fabulous Growing In Prayer by Mike Bickle that I have posted several times about.
The latest book in this series is “He-Motions” by T.D. Jakes, which is full of great anecdotes for those who learn best through a story, and broadly covers waking with God. It is written to both men and women, with almost every single section including thoughts specifically for wives, and a special set of questions for women to ask, consider, and/or share with their husbands. I probably got the most out of hearing Breanna’s perspective on our family, my purpose and strengths, motivations, etc. I highly recommend this book for 2 main groups of people:
Middle-aged men who may be considering big questions in life
He-Motions covers many examples related to the middle of life and a mid-life crisis. Jakes steps back and puts things in perspective by talking about our purpose and identity, and the seasons and stages in life, putting into context some of the things men might be experiencing at transitional times in life. Jakes is also quite thorough in covering the emotions, issues, and relationships men face. By touching on many manly areas, like a man’s relationship with (or issues from) his father, relationships with other men and how to structure them to strengthen yourself, your relationship with your wife, your relationship with your children, and your relationship with God.
It is the balanced look at a man’s soul and walk with God that I think would be centering and realigning for both middle-aged men asking questions, and the second group:
Younger men (or perhaps men who are younger Christians) learning about walking with God
A perfect example of how this book centers on the basics of balance across the spectrum is the section on relationship with your wife. This section talks about power, money, and sex as the 3 areas of a marriage, where Jakes gives basic advice about not letting things separate you from your partner, like a division of chores or decision making where each partner does things they are good at and don’t mind, while making sure all the bases are covered for a well run house, family, and budget.
Another example is the pyramid of friends. He describes how we need one friend who we trust implicitly and who knows us completely, then a couple of friends that we still trust highly, then several friends who we are still quite close with, a large group that we know and call friend, and then the rest of the crowd, who though they may call us friend are generally in it to be served by us. He talks about the depth of trust needed at the top in order for a friend to be able to call you out when you are wrong, lift you up when you are down, and provide a different perspective when you need wisdom.
While the book was more based on stories and practical advice than on a deep delve into scripture, throughout the book Jakes discusses the life of David, using him as an example of a man after God’s own heart. Above all that is what we can take away from “He-Motions”; God does not require a man to be perfect, or have his life in order, even though the book provides advice to do so. Instead, God seeks for men willing to open their heart to Him, to turn to him even when its out of pain, frustration or doubt. A man after God’s own heart is not one that follows Jake’s advice to a “T”, but one who is willing to walk with God, through good and bad, throughout his entire life.